I would welcome any advices from anyone who have had a similar experience than us. Our 4 years old son is highly gifted and can often exhibit ADHD-like behaviour, especially in a group setting. He is a lot easier when he gets one on one attention. I am actually stopping work in a month to focus on him and help him through school. He had a very bad start at Kindy this year and his teacher was so unflexible that we removed him from school. His Day Care was good until a few months back, but he seems to drive them insane now. He cannot sit still or do an activity unless he has decided that he wanted to do it. Everything is on his own terms and conditions. He has a massive amount of energy, does not stop talking and does not understand most social boundaries. He can get so frustrated that he bugs other kids. He shouts in their face and sometimes hit them, for no apparent reason. Parents have complained. His carers have difficulties to identify the triggers which makes him behave that way. They keep saying that it was not provoked. He plays very very well with his 2 ‘best friends’ on the weekend. But they are pretty bright/possibly gifted and I think this help a lot.
We feel that we are constantly disciplining him. We always talk to him and explain why he shouldn’t do one thing or another. We make him reflect on what he has done, etc… and he knows perfectly what he has done wrong, he tells us, but he seems to be very impulsive.
He can also be the perfect little boy, so loving and caring. He is very imaginative and constantly surprises us in a very positive manner. Unfortunately, his less positive side is ‘too much’ to handle for a lot of other kids and adults. And I am worried that he gets rejected. Actually, it’s already happening.
Any advices would be fantastic!